The new shade of wolf

Its been quite a while since I wrote anything. Call this breaking a writing  iceberg. I have to start with a disclaimer that an nt an expert on the topic to come but just an opinionated individual. 

When we are growing up as girls we have a check list.  finish school, get a good job and the mother of all prayers a good companion who will love and understand and be there for you.... you get my drift.

So when this guy of your dreams comes along, we want to hold on to him as he is treasure.( at least that's what society says. if you get a good man hold on to him).

There is nothing that sucks like starting to emotionally invest yourself in a potential relationship and find out you were all but wasting your time. 

You see a new trend has started to take shape in society. guys with partners get bored with their relationships  and in the course of sorting  things out step out and unsuspecting single girls get trapped. because these guys go all out  to restore their pursuit mojo. 

When the unsuspecting singles begin to invest and you know start to actually show interest , the guys bail  and run back to their relationships, leaving the unsuspecting high and  dry.

I get that relationships get boring, static , stagnant whatever word of choice you choose to put there.Things become routine and soon you want some sort of excitement. be responsible enough to invest back in your relationship and spice things up, or if you are at that point when you nid a breather take one.

Do not  go about wasting people's time when you are in a relationship and run after people especially when you all want is excitement. You are ruining it for people who are holding out hope  to finding  the one.Those months of chasing means this person is keeping off potential suitors to give you attention. Time is valuable and be man or woman enough  to not waste people's time.

Respect someone enough to only start something when you are unattached,or do the honours of warning people that you have a significant other .....that way is the other person chooses to delve in its with full knowledge of what they are getting themselves into.